Best way to approach my wife. I want to be a cuck

[Fled07]

Hi. I have had a desire of being a cuck for a few years now. For the last few months I have been heavily reading forums and reading other online resources. I think about it all the time. In my readings I see how far this can go if rules or guidelines are not set. I can see myself being restricted sex and her having a bf/lover but when I think about things like cleanup I am not 100% sure if I could do that, baby steps or ?

As I read forums, some things are hard to weed out. At times I feel some folks are posting fantasies as reality so I get a little jaded. I constantly think about her having another man and she fucks him as she wishes, when she wishes. I want her to go, I want her to enjoy herself, I just want to know ahead of time. "Fred is picking me up tonight after work, we are going to dinner and I will be going to his place but I will see you later" type of thing.

I have fantasized about her coming home then telling me about it. In my fantasies I am always aware of what she is doing, I have no choice she is going to do it but I always need to know, it turns me on like crazy. Her cheating or hiding is not my thing so I am not sure if that screws me out of this type of lifestyle for sure? Down the road, things like her fucking him in our home. Him spending the night fucking her in our bed and I can hear them but neither of them care make me hornier than I have ever been in my life. The thoughts go a little deeper but

1. Best way to approach and are timelines or guidelines to slowly go down the road in terms of how fast this progresses acceptable? I am not looking to destroy my marriage. If she is not into at all, I would be disappointed but understand 100%.

2. I read somewhere that folks should start out with hotwife and possibly progress from there. If that is accurate, I am fine with that of course, but how can I ask her?

The only thing we have done outside our marriage is we have been with another couple once then we tried again about 3 months later with a different couple. I enjoyed it but I liked seeing her fuck him, when I was with his wife it was nice and I had fun but its not what I wanted. Both times I felt the same way. She liked being with the one guy, he was built, tattooed and had a bigger dick - her type of guy. Forgive me if I sound a bit off. Really hoping to get some advice here from folks who live that lifestyle.

Thank you

 

[like2wacher66]

Hi. I have had a desire of being a cuck for a few years now. For the last few months I have been heavily reading forums and reading other online resources. I think about it all the time. In my readings I see how far this can go if rules or guidelines are not set. I can see myself being restricted sex and her having a bf/lover but when I think about things like cleanup I am not 100% sure if I could do that, baby steps or ?

As I read forums, some things are hard to weed out. At times I feel some folks are posting fantasies as reality so I get a little jaded. I constantly think about her having another man and she fucks him as she wishes, when she wishes. I want her to go, I want her to enjoy herself, I just want to know ahead of time. "Fred is picking me up tonight after work, we are going to dinner and I will be going to his place but I will see you later" type of thing.

I have fantasized about her coming home then telling me about it. In my fantasies I am always aware of what she is doing, I have no choice she is going to do it but I always need to know, it turns me on like crazy. Her cheating or hiding is not my thing so I am not sure if that screws me out of this type of lifestyle for sure? Down the road, things like her fucking him in our home. Him spending the night fucking her in our bed and I can hear them but neither of them care make me hornier than I have ever been in my life. The thoughts go a little deeper but

1. Best way to approach and are timelines or guidelines to slowly go down the road in terms of how fast this progresses acceptable? I am not looking to destroy my marriage. If she is not into at all, I would be disappointed but understand 100%.

2. I read somewhere that folks should start out with hotwife and possibly progress from there. If that is accurate, I am fine with that of course, but how can I ask her?

The only thing we have done outside our marriage is we have been with another couple once then we tried again about 3 months later with a different couple. I enjoyed it but I liked seeing her fuck him, when I was with his wife it was nice and I had fun but its not what I wanted. Both times I felt the same way. She liked being with the one guy, he was built, tattooed and had a bigger dick - her type of guy. Forgive me if I sound a bit off. Really hoping to get some advice here from folks who live that lifestyle.

Thank you

sounds like you are almost there with being cuckolded. encourage her to do things that will result in he getting fucked. let her go out by herself to nightclubs and tell her its ok to flirt with guys and to go to their car if they ask. and have her dress like a slut anytime she goes somewhere.

 

[Ferox80]

Hi. I have had a desire of being a cuck for a few years now. For the last few months I have been heavily reading forums and reading other online resources. I think about it all the time. In my readings I see how far this can go if rules or guidelines are not set. I can see myself being restricted sex and her having a bf/lover but when I think about things like cleanup I am not 100% sure if I could do that, baby steps or ?

As I read forums, some things are hard to weed out. At times I feel some folks are posting fantasies as reality so I get a little jaded. I constantly think about her having another man and she fucks him as she wishes, when she wishes. I want her to go, I want her to enjoy herself, I just want to know ahead of time. "Fred is picking me up tonight after work, we are going to dinner and I will be going to his place but I will see you later" type of thing.

I have fantasized about her coming home then telling me about it. In my fantasies I am always aware of what she is doing, I have no choice she is going to do it but I always need to know, it turns me on like crazy. Her cheating or hiding is not my thing so I am not sure if that screws me out of this type of lifestyle for sure? Down the road, things like her fucking him in our home. Him spending the night fucking her in our bed and I can hear them but neither of them care make me hornier than I have ever been in my life. The thoughts go a little deeper but

1. Best way to approach and are timelines or guidelines to slowly go down the road in terms of how fast this progresses acceptable? I am not looking to destroy my marriage. If she is not into at all, I would be disappointed but understand 100%.

2. I read somewhere that folks should start out with hotwife and possibly progress from there. If that is accurate, I am fine with that of course, but how can I ask her?

The only thing we have done outside our marriage is we have been with another couple once then we tried again about 3 months later with a different couple. I enjoyed it but I liked seeing her fuck him, when I was with his wife it was nice and I had fun but its not what I wanted. Both times I felt the same way. She liked being with the one guy, he was built, tattooed and had a bigger dick - her type of guy. Forgive me if I sound a bit off. Really hoping to get some advice here from folks who live that lifestyle.

Thank you

You could try with a couple with bisexual wife, without your wife to know.
And you will only watch.

 

[king3969]

First of course she said no then I just stated saying this over the months leading up to it like her pussy was too good not to share , I think you deserve to be satisfied , later I became bolder with things like your pussy is perfect for a big black cock Now she tells me and him things like those

 

[bull5]

Hi. I have had a desire of being a cuck for a few years now. For the last few months I have been heavily reading forums and reading other online resources. I think about it all the time. In my readings I see how far this can go if rules or guidelines are not set. I can see myself being restricted sex and her having a bf/lover but when I think about things like cleanup I am not 100% sure if I could do that, baby steps or ?

As I read forums, some things are hard to weed out. At times I feel some folks are posting fantasies as reality so I get a little jaded. I constantly think about her having another man and she fucks him as she wishes, when she wishes. I want her to go, I want her to enjoy herself, I just want to know ahead of time. "Fred is picking me up tonight after work, we are going to dinner and I will be going to his place but I will see you later" type of thing.

I have fantasized about her coming home then telling me about it. In my fantasies I am always aware of what she is doing, I have no choice she is going to do it but I always need to know, it turns me on like crazy. Her cheating or hiding is not my thing so I am not sure if that screws me out of this type of lifestyle for sure? Down the road, things like her fucking him in our home. Him spending the night fucking her in our bed and I can hear them but neither of them care make me hornier than I have ever been in my life. The thoughts go a little deeper but

1. Best way to approach and are timelines or guidelines to slowly go down the road in terms of how fast this progresses acceptable? I am not looking to destroy my marriage. If she is not into at all, I would be disappointed but understand 100%.

2. I read somewhere that folks should start out with hotwife and possibly progress from there. If that is accurate, I am fine with that of course, but how can I ask her?

The only thing we have done outside our marriage is we have been with another couple once then we tried again about 3 months later with a different couple. I enjoyed it but I liked seeing her fuck him, when I was with his wife it was nice and I had fun but its not what I wanted. Both times I felt the same way. She liked being with the one guy, he was built, tattooed and had a bigger dick - her type of guy. Forgive me if I sound a bit off. Really hoping to get some advice here from folks who live that lifestyle.

Thank you

Sounds like your already thinking 10 steps in advance, you have to gather some courage and come out about this fantasy with her preferably when shes in a good mood during sex. From there you can proceed, that you already played with with someone else and she enjoyed it is a good sign.
Good luck😇

 

[TommyFunn]

You need to find a way to set up the conversation. Pick some cuck porn to watch together or incorporate dirty talk where you slowly start to get into your complete fantasy and see how she responds. Otherwise, just start talking about sex and be up front about your fantasies, why you have them and what you think about the realities of it could look like. It has helped me progress a lot but we're still not in that regular cuck relationship that I want. We played with a guy 2 times years ago.

 

[wormwood]

The OP has not been here since a few days after he posted, but I'll put in my 2 cents anyway in case he comes back.
If you've dabbled in swinging, that's the discussion you may want to have with her. You can bring it up and tell her that you enjoyed seeing her in another man's arms more than you enjoyed being with another woman. She may have sensed your lack of enthusiasm at the time and left off because she was considering your lack of enthusiasm as jealousy.
Let her know that dating and having sex with a guy that's "her type of guy" would be ok with you and that you would enjoy her getting the type of sex that she needs, that you can't give her.