Getting extremely close advice needed (33y pretty hotwife in the making)

[uvasacq]

My girlfriend (33y) and I are in a relationship for over 10 years now. I have a strong fantasy of sharing her with other guys and I think I am getting close, but not sure how to proceed from now to really get things going.



My girlfriend is extremely hot: blonde, tall, slim and athletique figure, pretty face and the nicest ass. Imaging her getting her sexual pleasure from others is extremely arousing to me, but the thougt that other guys get turned on by her ‘hotness’ is also extremely arousing.



I have this fantasy for a few years now and I started talking to her about exploring this fantasy a few years ago. At first she found it weird and said never gonna happen. But now a few years later she is getting used to the idea. My girlfriend is very vanilla when it comes to sex and she find it hard talking about it. But she is beginning to opening up and that takes the awkwardness away for her.



Now we are at a point she is talking more serious about it and actually thinks about it. I know she is texting with someone (she doesn’t know that I know) and I think this can be the first opportunity. The thing holding her back is telling me every detail because she feels very awkward about it. A while ago there was also a nother guy who she was texting with (her personal trainer) which led to sex texting, we had great sex during that time but I was getting way too excited and eventually she felt that as pressure. So she admitted she want to explore this fantasy but on her terms and she doesn’t want to involve me to much in finding the first guy, because she is awkward telling about it and is afraid that I am getting to excited which will feel as pressure to her.



She said she is going to find a guy and will tell me when the first date is set. She is extremely picky so it will be a long process I think. And the thing I worry about is that we have phases where she is really into it (like now), but there are also phases that she is more closed off and doesn’t like to talk about it. And is she is in a phase like that I always have the feeling it’s really hard to open her up again. Like we have to start all over again. In other words I want to ‘prime’ her in a very subtle way. Maybe even in a indirect way. What would you guys do? For example a few days ago we went to the movie babygirl and that opened the conversation again. She now wants to see more movies with me where the wife is cheating. So maybe you guys have advice for movies/series? Or maybe some podcast stories?



I really think it’s going to happen soon, but I need to work very thougtfull. One of the main things holding her back was the thought that she would see me as a pussy if she is getting fucked by other dudes. She brought that up again a few days ago and when I was understanding about that and said maybe this is not something for us because I don’t want to her think about me like that and al of a sudden she changed her opinion and said maybe I judged to quickly about that. So in otherwords she wants this and she doesn’t even mind anymore (about the things holding her back) if she would see me as a pussy. I know she is texting a guy in secret and I think she asked my final approval to make sure I really want this and she made clear she want to do it on her terms: telling me a few days before her first date. Man this is so exciting. But I don’t want to loose this momentum. What would you guys do?

 

[TheCABull]

I’m a bull so can’t really know what stage you’re in. However with most of the couples I’ve been with they were discussing these while having sex and taking it from there. Personally, I would say the most important part is it let her have her time.

 

[Wetandwild40s]

My girlfriend (33y) and I are in a relationship for over 10 years now. I have a strong fantasy of sharing her with other guys and I think I am getting close, but not sure how to proceed from now to really get things going.



My girlfriend is extremely hot: blonde, tall, slim and athletique figure, pretty face and the nicest ass. Imaging her getting her sexual pleasure from others is extremely arousing to me, but the thougt that other guys get turned on by her ‘hotness’ is also extremely arousing.



I have this fantasy for a few years now and I started talking to her about exploring this fantasy a few years ago. At first she found it weird and said never gonna happen. But now a few years later she is getting used to the idea. My girlfriend is very vanilla when it comes to sex and she find it hard talking about it. But she is beginning to opening up and that takes the awkwardness away for her.



Now we are at a point she is talking more serious about it and actually thinks about it. I know she is texting with someone (she doesn’t know that I know) and I think this can be the first opportunity. The thing holding her back is telling me every detail because she feels very awkward about it. A while ago there was also a nother guy who she was texting with (her personal trainer) which led to sex texting, we had great sex during that time but I was getting way too excited and eventually she felt that as pressure. So she admitted she want to explore this fantasy but on her terms and she doesn’t want to involve me to much in finding the first guy, because she is awkward telling about it and is afraid that I am getting to excited which will feel as pressure to her.



She said she is going to find a guy and will tell me when the first date is set. She is extremely picky so it will be a long process I think. And the thing I worry about is that we have phases where she is really into it (like now), but there are also phases that she is more closed off and doesn’t like to talk about it. And is she is in a phase like that I always have the feeling it’s really hard to open her up again. Like we have to start all over again. In other words I want to ‘prime’ her in a very subtle way. Maybe even in a indirect way. What would you guys do? For example a few days ago we went to the movie babygirl and that opened the conversation again. She now wants to see more movies with me where the wife is cheating. So maybe you guys have advice for movies/series? Or maybe some podcast stories?



I really think it’s going to happen soon, but I need to work very thougtfull. One of the main things holding her back was the thought that she would see me as a pussy if she is getting fucked by other dudes. She brought that up again a few days ago and when I was understanding about that and said maybe this is not something for us because I don’t want to her think about me like that and al of a sudden she changed her opinion and said maybe I judged to quickly about that. So in otherwords she wants this and she doesn’t even mind anymore (about the things holding her back) if she would see me as a pussy. I know she is texting a guy in secret and I think she asked my final approval to make sure I really want this and she made clear she want to do it on her terms: telling me a few days before her first date. Man this is so exciting. But I don’t want to loose this momentum. What would you guys do?

Do not rush it. Let her have her time. The slow-burning build-up is all part of the journey. Both of you just need to relax and enjoy this part. My wife and I are nearly there and it has taken over twenty years (although I only told her about 5 years ago). Sex has been amazing when we share little ideas, fantasies or ask questions in the midst of passion. It's all part of the process, and I, for one, am loving every second of it.

 

[uvasacq]

Thanks for the advice guys. I think patience is key and I noticed it’s more on her mind since I decided to take a step back.

How far do you think I am in the process? And what do you think are subtle things I can do so it will keep in top of her mind?

 

[uvasacq]

Update:

She wants to understand my fantasy and what turns me on and why I want this. She asked me if I could wright it to her. What would you guys say? If I am too honest I think it will backfire. I needs to be subtle in woman language if that makes sense. Curious about your opinions.

 

[Bowlerlb]

Update:

She wants to understand my fantasy and what turns me on and why I want this. She asked me if I could wright it to her. What would you guys say? If I am too honest I think it will backfire. I needs to be subtle in woman language if that makes sense. Curious about your opinions.

Have a look at this article and maybe read it with her.

Susan Gower on Cuckolding

First let me say that I agree fully with the content of the alleged author's essay and though I've seen this text all over the 'net I've been unable to find any original source of this work by "Susan Gower". By sex therapist & relationships counselor Susan Gower After studying human sexuality...

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It may clarify things for her.

You may also find this interesting.

Cuckolding: Exploring A New Lifestyle Together - Evolving Your Man

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Enjoy the read together.

 

[Carl Knoxville]

My girlfriend (33y) and I are in a relationship for over 10 years now. I have a strong fantasy of sharing her with other guys and I think I am getting close, but not sure how to proceed from now to really get things going.



My girlfriend is extremely hot: blonde, tall, slim and athletique figure, pretty face and the nicest ass. Imaging her getting her sexual pleasure from others is extremely arousing to me, but the thougt that other guys get turned on by her ‘hotness’ is also extremely arousing.



I have this fantasy for a few years now and I started talking to her about exploring this fantasy a few years ago. At first she found it weird and said never gonna happen. But now a few years later she is getting used to the idea. My girlfriend is very vanilla when it comes to sex and she find it hard talking about it. But she is beginning to opening up and that takes the awkwardness away for her.



Now we are at a point she is talking more serious about it and actually thinks about it. I know she is texting with someone (she doesn’t know that I know) and I think this can be the first opportunity. The thing holding her back is telling me every detail because she feels very awkward about it. A while ago there was also a nother guy who she was texting with (her personal trainer) which led to sex texting, we had great sex during that time but I was getting way too excited and eventually she felt that as pressure. So she admitted she want to explore this fantasy but on her terms and she doesn’t want to involve me to much in finding the first guy, because she is awkward telling about it and is afraid that I am getting to excited which will feel as pressure to her.



She said she is going to find a guy and will tell me when the first date is set. She is extremely picky so it will be a long process I think. And the thing I worry about is that we have phases where she is really into it (like now), but there are also phases that she is more closed off and doesn’t like to talk about it. And is she is in a phase like that I always have the feeling it’s really hard to open her up again. Like we have to start all over again. In other words I want to ‘prime’ her in a very subtle way. Maybe even in a indirect way. What would you guys do? For example a few days ago we went to the movie babygirl and that opened the conversation again. She now wants to see more movies with me where the wife is cheating. So maybe you guys have advice for movies/series? Or maybe some podcast stories?



I really think it’s going to happen soon, but I need to work very thougtfull. One of the main things holding her back was the thought that she would see me as a pussy if she is getting fucked by other dudes. She brought that up again a few days ago and when I was understanding about that and said maybe this is not something for us because I don’t want to her think about me like that and al of a sudden she changed her opinion and said maybe I judged to quickly about that. So in otherwords she wants this and she doesn’t even mind anymore (about the things holding her back) if she would see me as a pussy. I know she is texting a guy in secret and I think she asked my final approval to make sure I really want this and she made clear she want to do it on her terms: telling me a few days before her first date. Man this is so exciting. But I don’t want to loose this momentum. What would you guys do?

Dm me bro

 

[TallBWCArizona]

My girlfriend (33y) and I are in a relationship for over 10 years now. I have a strong fantasy of sharing her with other guys and I think I am getting close, but not sure how to proceed from now to really get things going.



My girlfriend is extremely hot: blonde, tall, slim and athletique figure, pretty face and the nicest ass. Imaging her getting her sexual pleasure from others is extremely arousing to me, but the thougt that other guys get turned on by her ‘hotness’ is also extremely arousing.



I have this fantasy for a few years now and I started talking to her about exploring this fantasy a few years ago. At first she found it weird and said never gonna happen. But now a few years later she is getting used to the idea. My girlfriend is very vanilla when it comes to sex and she find it hard talking about it. But she is beginning to opening up and that takes the awkwardness away for her.



Now we are at a point she is talking more serious about it and actually thinks about it. I know she is texting with someone (she doesn’t know that I know) and I think this can be the first opportunity. The thing holding her back is telling me every detail because she feels very awkward about it. A while ago there was also a nother guy who she was texting with (her personal trainer) which led to sex texting, we had great sex during that time but I was getting way too excited and eventually she felt that as pressure. So she admitted she want to explore this fantasy but on her terms and she doesn’t want to involve me to much in finding the first guy, because she is awkward telling about it and is afraid that I am getting to excited which will feel as pressure to her.



She said she is going to find a guy and will tell me when the first date is set. She is extremely picky so it will be a long process I think. And the thing I worry about is that we have phases where she is really into it (like now), but there are also phases that she is more closed off and doesn’t like to talk about it. And is she is in a phase like that I always have the feeling it’s really hard to open her up again. Like we have to start all over again. In other words I want to ‘prime’ her in a very subtle way. Maybe even in a indirect way. What would you guys do? For example a few days ago we went to the movie babygirl and that opened the conversation again. She now wants to see more movies with me where the wife is cheating. So maybe you guys have advice for movies/series? Or maybe some podcast stories?



I really think it’s going to happen soon, but I need to work very thougtfull. One of the main things holding her back was the thought that she would see me as a pussy if she is getting fucked by other dudes. She brought that up again a few days ago and when I was understanding about that and said maybe this is not something for us because I don’t want to her think about me like that and al of a sudden she changed her opinion and said maybe I judged to quickly about that. So in otherwords she wants this and she doesn’t even mind anymore (about the things holding her back) if she would see me as a pussy. I know she is texting a guy in secret and I think she asked my final approval to make sure I really want this and she made clear she want to do it on her terms: telling me a few days before her first date. Man this is so exciting. But I don’t want to loose this momentum. What would you guys do?

You are correct. She looks at you different. But, you are the one that set this in motion. You opened a door to something you know nothing about.

Going backwards now is not an option. She sees you as a Cuck. A man that enjoys the his wife fucking other men. It seems like she has fully embraced that lifestyle. She wants you to watch. Which will also lead you to end up playing with her Alpha Male Bull and her.

Not to worry. Your indecisive behavior tells me you are a Cuck. Which is where you will feel most comfortable. Embrace that role and be the best cuckold you can be. Let me take it from here and I will prove it to you. I will send you a private message on this platform. I can then give you instructions on how you proceed. Give me your wife's email address. I will contact her and set it up.

Your welcome,

I'm you new Bull Daddy

 

[uvasacq]

Update:

Yesterday a girlfriend confessed to her she is having an sexual affair, which obviously led to talks between us. She admitted she is a bit jealous of her and that she understands het excitement but at the same time condemns the cheating part.

So she kind of confessed she wants to fuck other dudes, but at the same time she came to the conclusion that it would turn her off that I am oke with that and that I can’t fuck other girls. She doesn’t like the feeling that she owes me if she is fucking other dudes and I can’t have my pleasure with others. So she said we can both have a one time hookup with someone and explore how we both feel after that.

To be honest I don’t particularly want to fuck other girls, but don’t mind it either. What do you guys think? Can this lead to a hotwife scenario or just an open relationship?

 

[firestarter]

Update:

She wants to understand my fantasy and what turns me on and why I want this. She asked me if I could wright it to her. What would you guys say? If I am too honest I think it will backfire. I needs to be subtle in woman language if that makes sense. Curious about your opinions.

what did you write to her? and can you send her pics?

 

[Stevens4fun]

You are about to become the husband of a "hotwife." Don't push, and when she opens the topic in conversation with you, be supportive. Give her time and rersources to find the right guy for her. The line between sharing one's wife with other men and being a cuckold isn't always real clear, and both are exciting as all hell. Let your wife guide you, though. When a woman feels she can have sex with other men and keep her husband happy as well, it's going to be a wild ride. You will need to be flexible - what your wife sees as the ideal arrangement may not correspond with what you had in mind.

 

[uvasacq]

Update:

Things are moving pretty quickly. We decided to give it a go on both sides after we agreed on our boundaries to eachother. We didn’t do that yet, but we agreed when we have done that we both have green light.

Today she was with her friend again who has an sexual affair, she constantly condemns the cheating part but is also constantly telling me she understands her excitement.

My gf is texting with a guy (she doesn’t know that I know) for somewhile now and it was a bit of vanilla texting untill now. Since friday we sort of made the deal with eachother and she is really going for it now. I think the excitement has build to a level she can’t hold it anymore. I don’t think there is turning back now and that is a little scary to be honest. She asked him when he is coming to our country and I just found his reply saying that he was considering coming next week. So wtf it allready could be happening next week. I am very curious if she is going to push on setting the boundaries, then I know enough and it will happen next week. Damn, don’t know what to feel at the moment because things are getting real.

 

[uvasacq]

I also think she is quite shocked and surprised he was considering coming next week. I think she is a bit overwhelmed aswell. Really curious if the fear kicks in and that she will pull out or can’t help herself anymore and just go for it.

 

[SNJ_Dom]

Keep us in the loop! And do you have a photo of her that you're willing to share, to show us how sexy she is?

 

[firestarter]

Update:

Things are moving pretty quickly. We decided to give it a go on both sides after we agreed on our boundaries to eachother. We didn’t do that yet, but we agreed when we have done that we both have green light.

Today she was with her friend again who has an sexual affair, she constantly condemns the cheating part but is also constantly telling me she understands her excitement.

My gf is texting with a guy (she doesn’t know that I know) for somewhile now and it was a bit of vanilla texting untill now. Since friday we sort of made the deal with eachother and she is really going for it now. I think the excitement has build to a level she can’t hold it anymore. I don’t think there is turning back now and that is a little scary to be honest. She asked him when he is coming to our country and I just found his reply saying that he was considering coming next week. So wtf it allready could be happening next week. I am very curious if she is going to push on setting the boundaries, then I know enough and it will happen next week. Damn, don’t know what to feel at the moment because things are getting real.

you'll be a cuck next week. it should be so exciting.

 

[uvasacq]

Update:

Things are moving very fast atm. I just intercepted text messages between my gf and a friend of her.

So basically we gave each other a free card for ONE TIME only and we discussed that being open and honest is key to make this work, but I just found out she is going to brake that rule. She said to her friend that this guy who is texting with is coming to town and she wants to fuck other dudes for years so she can’t hold it anymore. She wants to meet with him. That is litteraly what she said. But the most shocking part is that she said she is not going to tell me. So if that happens she is breaking our rules and I don’t think this will stay with one time only from her side.

I have very mixed emotions at the moment, because I don’t like the feeling of betrayal and I want to trust her. I also don’t understand why she doesn’t want to share with me, because she can literally discuss anything with me. Part of me wants to confront her, but that will mean I will ruin this whole process. And I also feel lots of excitement and also feel humiliated and that I can’t control it anymore, which is turning me on very much.

Not sure what to do, but will keep you in the loop. I am open to advice.

 

[SNJ_Dom]

Update:

Things are moving very fast atm. I just intercepted text messages between my gf and a friend of her.

So basically we gave each other a free card for ONE TIME only and we discussed that being open and honest is key to make this work, but I just found out she is going to brake that rule. She said to her friend that this guy who is texting with is coming to town and she wants to fuck other dudes for years so she can’t hold it anymore. She wants to meet with him. That is litteraly what she said. But the most shocking part is that she said she is not going to tell me. So if that happens she is breaking our rules and I don’t think this will stay with one time only from her side.

I have very mixed emotions at the moment, because I don’t like the feeling of betrayal and I want to trust her. I also don’t understand why she doesn’t want to share with me, because she can literally discuss anything with me. Part of me wants to confront her, but that will mean I will ruin this whole process. And I also feel lots of excitement and also feel humiliated and that I can’t control it anymore, which is turning me on very much.

Not sure what to do, but will keep you in the loop. I am open to advice.

You need to ask yourself, is the breach of trust with your wife worth having her fulfull a fantasy of yours? Is her lying to you worth it? Because if she's started to lie already and she hasn't even met this guy yet, what do you think she will do going forward?

Or, do you want to have good communication, not lose that trust, and yes maybe have this fantasy be put off for a while until you can work through it?

 

[firestarter]

Not sure what to do, but will keep you in the loop. I am open to advice.

i guess you have no turning back cause she already make her mind
and you wants it and she wants it only problems is she's not gonna share with you, if she know about cuckolding wife sharing etc? maybe that's why she wants to kee it secret

 

[clear_to_play]

You are not married. No reason for her to have to tell you because she sees you as weak now. I know how powerful the fantasy is. But real emotions are involved with real life consequences that we can’t control. All this is neat and tidy and goes the way we want it when we have our fantasies, but real life doesn’t work that way. Breaching trust is a dealbreaker and it doesn’t look like she is too worried about that. It doesn’t look like this is going to end well for your relationship in my opinion.