Happy to give advice

[EastCoastLifest]

As a couple who have lived this glorious lifestyle for more than 30 years now (Wow that is so hard to believe) we would love to be able to give some people on here some advice, or benefit of our experience, or just share some details with anyone. Husbands or wives, who are involved in the lifestyle, or who want to be, if you want any advice, we are here to help and share.

We are UK based, but I think the experience of the cuckold lifestyle is pretty universal, so if you need anything, do feel free to ask, and let us know if you want myself (husband) or my wife to answer, and either in this thread or in a private message.

We just want to help as many other couples as we can, have the amazing life that we have had, and to enjoy all that this way of life offers. And boy oh boy, can it be fun!!

P & C

 

[Cuckindeep]

As a couple who have lived this glorious lifestyle for more than 30 years now (Wow that is so hard to believe) we would love to be able to give some people on here some advice, or benefit of our experience, or just share some details with anyone. Husbands or wives, who are involved in the lifestyle, or who want to be, if you want any advice, we are here to help and share.

We are UK based, but I think the experience of the cuckold lifestyle is pretty universal, so if you need anything, do feel free to ask, and let us know if you want myself (husband) or my wife to answer, and either in this thread or in a private message.

We just want to help as many other couples as we can, have the amazing life that we have had, and to enjoy all that this way of life offers. And boy oh boy, can it be fun!!

P & C

Hi from Bulgaria! Any advice from you that would help to convince my wife to join the world of cuckold hot wife will be highly appreciated

 

[EastCoastLifest]

Hi from Bulgaria! Any advice from you that would help to convince my wife to join the world of cuckold hot wife will be highly appreciated

Probably the one questions almost everyone will want answered. And to be honest, it is hard to answer. It sounds like it is your fantasy and she doesn't share it, but to check, have you spoken to her about it? If not, then obviously that would be the first step. If you have and she isn't keen, all you can do is gently remind her that it's really important to you and ask her to at least consider and chat about it. If it would help, I can give you an email address when she could contact my wife direct and get the woman's perspective on it? Would that be of interest?

 

[EastCoastLifest]

Hi from Bulgaria! Any advice from you that would help to convince my wife to join the world of cuckold hot wife will be highly appreciated

Just an afterthought as well, is she aware of your membership of this site? Maybe, if she reads some of the posts on these forums, it might reassure her.

 

[Cuckindeep]

Probably the one questions almost everyone will want answered. And to be honest, it is hard to answer. It sounds like it is your fantasy and she doesn't share it, but to check, have you spoken to her about it? If not, then obviously that would be the first step. If you have and she isn't keen, all you can do is gently remind her that it's really important to you and ask her to at least consider and chat about it. If it would help, I can give you an email address when she could contact my wife direct and get the woman's perspective on it? Would that be of interest?

Yes I’m interested to that! I shared already that with her and she is not agree with that!

 

[Cuckindeep]

Just an afterthought as well, is she aware of your membership of this site? Maybe, if she reads some of the posts on these forums, it might reassure her.

She is not aware of existence of that site.

 

[EastCoastLifest]

Yes I’m interested to that! I shared already that with her and she is not agree with that!

I'll DM Carol's email address to you, She'll be happy to answer any concerns that your wife may have.

 

[EastCoastLifest]

Surprised we haven't heard from anyone else with this post. We're both happy to share. Makes me wonder why most people are here on this site.

 

[Cuckindeep]

Surprised we haven't heard from anyone else with this post. We're both happy to share. Makes me wonder why most people are here on this site.

Totally agree with you.

 

[Locked]

Surprised we haven't heard from anyone else with this post. We're both happy to share. Makes me wonder why most people are here on this site.

It's not that there are no people seeking advice, but as you can imagine, most questions are the same, i.e. how to convince the partner. And from what I have learned - there is no easy answer, it depends on the partner. And who knows the partner the best? Me. I am currently in the process of convincing. Failing for the moment. Did read all posts in the forum "How to Convince Your Wife / Partner" (not joking, I did read them all). I found very few success stories and for most of them the partner (wife) was already open to the idea. I think there was one or two where that wasn't the case, but the process took many years.

What will sound strange for many is that I am 24/7 locked and still failing to convince the partner. Most people automatically assume since I am locked - she will be immediately on board. Well, as much as I would like that, turns out this is not the case.
Wife sees this as cheating and she can not do it. Tried to explain cheating is when there is lie and deception, but in her mind this is still a cheating and she loves me and if she does it - it would mean she doesn't love me. I kinda understand where this comes from - we both have a history in our families related to cheating, which resulted in long time misery for the person being cheated on.

My small progress so far is that she finally said my cock is tiny and agreed to read the book "The faithful hotwite" (didn't read it yet). And she agreed I can share her pictures here, but without the face. I agree on the no-face term, don't want someone to recognise us.

It's not that there are no possibilities for something to happen - she goes to gym alone for example, but she is just not looking. And still says she can not do this. Two times she was approached by men at the nudist beach after they saw me caged. Both times she didn't give them any attention.
Even got scared I will leave her, because she can not give me what I want. Obviously I am not leaving her and will not leave her even if she never agrees.
She is not worried I will want other women for me after I explained I expect to stay locked and, in general, why would I want to sexually disappoint another woman.

Unfortunately I do not expect any positive result in the near future. Till the end of the last year I was unlocked once per two months for a quick sex. I will try to refuse unlock for the entire 2025 (not sure I can, because in general it's her decision) and hope it will make her miss sex enough to start considering cucking me. If course this by itself will not work, but maybe after reading the book and probably more conversations.. Who knows.. After one year without sex and even without erection she may realise cucking is the only option for good sex for her. Which, if it works, she will not need sex from me and will probably never unlock me. And I will be happy to stay forever locked if I can enjoy seeing her having great sex.

Of course any advice will be highly appreciated.

 

[Ozzij]

I’m the same as others on this thread, wife not sure about it and very nervous, thinks that she is no longer sexy. I reckon she looks great.

Very kind of you to assist and share your experience.

 

[allieandpeter]

As a couple who have lived this glorious lifestyle for more than 30 years now (Wow that is so hard to believe) we would love to be able to give some people on here some advice, or benefit of our experience, or just share some details with anyone. Husbands or wives, who are involved in the lifestyle, or who want to be, if you want any advice, we are here to help and share.

We are UK based, but I think the experience of the cuckold lifestyle is pretty universal, so if you need anything, do feel free to ask, and let us know if you want myself (husband) or my wife to answer, and either in this thread or in a private message.

We just want to help as many other couples as we can, have the amazing life that we have had, and to enjoy all that this way of life offers. And boy oh boy, can it be fun!!

P & C

Love to learn from u!

 

[farmlandcouple]

I’m the same as others on this thread, wife not sure about it and very nervous, thinks that she is no longer sexy. I reckon she looks great.

Very kind of you to assist and share your experience.

I’m the wife and your comment about how your wife feels is me

 

[EastCoastLifest]

It's not that there are no people seeking advice, but as you can imagine, most questions are the same, i.e. how to convince the partner. And from what I have learned - there is no easy answer, it depends on the partner. And who knows the partner the best? Me. I am currently in the process of convincing. Failing for the moment. Did read all posts in the forum "How to Convince Your Wife / Partner" (not joking, I did read them all). I found very few success stories and for most of them the partner (wife) was already open to the idea. I think there was one or two where that wasn't the case, but the process took many years.

What will sound strange for many is that I am 24/7 locked and still failing to convince the partner. Most people automatically assume since I am locked - she will be immediately on board. Well, as much as I would like that, turns out this is not the case.
Wife sees this as cheating and she can not do it. Tried to explain cheating is when there is lie and deception, but in her mind this is still a cheating and she loves me and if she does it - it would mean she doesn't love me. I kinda understand where this comes from - we both have a history in our families related to cheating, which resulted in long time misery for the person being cheated on.

My small progress so far is that she finally said my cock is tiny and agreed to read the book "The faithful hotwite" (didn't read it yet). And she agreed I can share her pictures here, but without the face. I agree on the no-face term, don't want someone to recognise us.

It's not that there are no possibilities for something to happen - she goes to gym alone for example, but she is just not looking. And still says she can not do this. Two times she was approached by men at the nudist beach after they saw me caged. Both times she didn't give them any attention.
Even got scared I will leave her, because she can not give me what I want. Obviously I am not leaving her and will not leave her even if she never agrees.
She is not worried I will want other women for me after I explained I expect to stay locked and, in general, why would I want to sexually disappoint another woman.

Unfortunately I do not expect any positive result in the near future. Till the end of the last year I was unlocked once per two months for a quick sex. I will try to refuse unlock for the entire 2025 (not sure I can, because in general it's her decision) and hope it will make her miss sex enough to start considering cucking me. If course this by itself will not work, but maybe after reading the book and probably more conversations.. Who knows.. After one year without sex and even without erection she may realise cucking is the only option for good sex for her. Which, if it works, she will not need sex from me and will probably never unlock me. And I will be happy to stay forever locked if I can enjoy seeing her having great sex.

Of course any advice will be highly appreciated.

Of course this is the single most commonly heard question about this lifestyle isn't it. I can totally understand that your wife sees it as cheating, and like you, feel that deception and lies, having sex behind your back is of course cheating, but if you are okay with it, then it's not. But it sounds like she has a very fixed view on that and sees if differently. Carol for some time in the very early days, before she agreed to give it a try, saw it as okay, so I was happy for her to have sex with somebody, but was sure that I was agreeing to it, so that I could turn it back on her sometime, that I was going to cheat on her and justify it with, well you did it, so I can. I never have cheated, and never would, but that was her position. As the old saying goes though, "It isn't cheating if my husband watches."

I remember chatting with somebody about this a few years back and his take on it was, it's like anything else that either member of a couple want to do sexually. Say, a husband wants his wife to try anal, but she definitely doesn't want to, or she refuses to swallow, or anything really. All you can do is discuss it and see if by communicating openly, she might come around, or if not, then sadly you just have to accept it and deal with it as you see. You can't forse her have sex with another man if she really can't be convinced.

It's interesting that you say she was approached at a nudist beach. She is at least happy to be naked around other men. Would she perhaps just flirt with someone? Back in our early days, Carol did flirt with a few guys long before she agreed to have sex with someone. It was almost like a gateway in hotwifeing. Have you tried suggesting that?

The only thing I can really offer for you or for anyone else with a similar issue, DM me and I'll give you Carol's email address, and if you wife wants to email her and ask anything at all, she'll answer honestly.

Hope it helps and good luck.

 

[EastCoastLifest]

I’m the same as others on this thread, wife not sure about it and very nervous, thinks that she is no longer sexy. I reckon she looks great.

Very kind of you to assist and share your experience.

Same offer if it may help, DM me and I'll let you have Carol's email address and if your wife wants to discuss, maybe she can reassure her and take away some of her nerves.

 

[Nick1477]

Surprised we haven't heard from anyone else with this post. We're both happy to share. Makes me wonder why most people are here on this site.

You heard from us and totally blanked me Friday and Saturday, I even included photos. Being as we are the same age as you and also from the UK thought you would have been more interested.

 

[Ro66]

As a couple who have lived this glorious lifestyle for more than 30 years now (Wow that is so hard to believe) we would love to be able to give some people on here some advice, or benefit of our experience, or just share some details with anyone. Husbands or wives, who are involved in the lifestyle, or who want to be, if you want any advice, we are here to help and share.

We are UK based, but I think the experience of the cuckold lifestyle is pretty universal, so if you need anything, do feel free to ask, and let us know if you want myself (husband) or my wife to answer, and either in this thread or in a private message.

We just want to help as many other couples as we can, have the amazing life that we have had, and to enjoy all that this way of life offers. And boy oh boy, can it be fun!!

P & C

I assume you were both into the life style or at least receptive to it so you did not have any awkward conversations about why you wanted to pursue the lifestyle. I am not into the cuckold type relationship more the Stag/vixen. It is something that has developed in recent years having been married for over 30 years. In my early days I would not have considered letting anyone near my wife but as I have got older my feelings towards her taking a younger man/ cock have changed. However, throughout all my fantasising I still would feel very nervous about how I/ we would react after a real encounter. We role play the situation but a real experience would be a completely different level. If I am having these feeling am I ready for such an experience do you think?

 

[EastCoastLifest]

You heard from us and totally blanked me Friday and Saturday, I even included photos. Being as we are the same age as you and also from the UK thought you would have been more interested.

Sorry that you feel I blanked you, I actually sent two replies to your DM, so not sure how you feel blanked. Maybe it was a technical problem with delivery of DMs and you didn't see them.

 

[EastCoastLifest]

I assume you were both into the life style or at least receptive to it so you did not have any awkward conversations about why you wanted to pursue the lifestyle. I am not into the cuckold type relationship more the Stag/vixen. It is something that has developed in recent years having been married for over 30 years. In my early days I would not have considered letting anyone near my wife but as I have got older my feelings towards her taking a younger man/ cock have changed. However, throughout all my fantasising I still would feel very nervous about how I/ we would react after a real encounter. We role play the situation but a real experience would be a completely different level. If I am having these feeling am I ready for such an experience do you think?

Firstly, I think that it is totally natural to feel nervous about somebody fucking your wife, I think we all feel those nerves, and to a degree, they never go away. I still feel nerves mixed with excitement even now. But the other thing here is that I read your comment as you don't think you could actually go through with it. And I guess only you will know for sure if you truly want to have these experiences. Like all fantasies, often the fantasy is great but turning it into reality is a step too far sometimes. How does your wife feel? Is she pushing to meet another man? Maybe she could go out for a drink and nothing more with another man, see how it feels for her to do that, maybe there is some way of trying things slowly knowing it won't end up with her in bed with someone, maybe online conversations, just to see how it makes you feel.

As for your first point, we had many, many conversations, often very awkward in the early stages, I genuinely believe everyone in this lifestyle does. That I think is perfectly normal.

 

[Nick1477]

Sorry that you feel I blanked you, I actually sent two replies to your DM, so not sure how you feel blanked. Maybe it was a technical problem with delivery of DMs and you didn't see them.

Sorry if there's been I mix up, you did answer me on Thursday but I sent some more with photos Friday and Saturday and just thought you weren't interested, which is fair enough. Just thought you might have been being as we're the same age, same interests and also from the uk.