How to deal with and overcome jealousy, insecurity?

[imherman]

Hey everyone - brand new to this and trying to wrap my head around it all

My wife told me she wants to be with another man and I wasn’t ready.

I’ve always had a cuck kink from being cheated in previous relationships but it was never anything I actually wanted to do.

I have the kink, my wife expressed a desire to try black men (she’s puerto Rican and has only been with white guys) and now I need to decide if it’s something I support her with and empower her to experience or tell her I can’t deal with it.

I feel guilty as hell telling her she can’t have something she wants. I know it took a lot of courage for her to ask me, and I could tell from her tone that this is really important to her.

If I saw no I have to deal with the guilt as well as the knowledge that she still wants this just as bad.

If I support her I hope that I might enjoy parts of it as a cuck, and that she will appreciate my support and get this out of her system.

Ideally, she’d have a handful of experiences and go back to regular monogamy.

I know I’m a jealous guy - how can I manage this and any insecurities that will surely come up?

I’m trying to navigate if I can do this, and I think I can if I can get over my jealously.

I know it will hurt to have other men experience her and know what she’s like intimately.

Right now any time I ...... with her i can’t not think ‘oh this is what she wants to give away to another man’ or ‘oh this is what some dude is going to enjoy’ right as I climax (I don’t want to think about that when I’m cumming but it always happens).

I’d be really grateful for any insights or advice on how to deal with the jealousy so that I can give my wife what she really wants

 

[Sandycheeks4242]

Exposure therapy.

Watch her shake hands, then hug, then kiss then get her tits fondled, her clit licked, sucking dick and then getting creampie. One step at a time

 

[SmallHubbyTexas]

Taking steps is good advice. I have been living this life for over 5 years and I still get jealous. Watching my wife play with his cock and enjoying it. My cock is straining and crying in its cage the whole time, but I love that she is enjoying herself and I like watching. So even though I am jealous, my other emotions over ride it.

 

[Hotwifelove]

I don't know i do not get jealous
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[Jeanswatcher]

I have never been jealous of my girlfriend or after she became my wife and cuckoldress. I accepted it was small part of her personality and she wanted and needed to explore and expand her own mind, body and sexuality, with different and more experienced lovers.

Using years of experience, her desires and how she approaches them i would if i may suggest that your wife in expressing a desire to try black men".....isnt actually asking you she is sounding you out on your view. Females have the means to sexually get what they want, i would read what your wrote as her conversion really means, this is what i want and if you agree thats excellent, if not when the opportunity arises i probably will anyway.

The differences are, one you may get to know about her encounter or two, she will do it and hide it from you and females are excellent at this. So which do you prefer?

As to your jealousy and insecurity, i think its fair to suggest that your hope that if she does this and enjoys it she will then return "to regular monogamy" may not happen.

However being the husband of a cuckoldress isnt all bad, far from it. My cuckoldresses sexuality is 5% of who she is and whilst that 5% maybe enjoying the her pleasures of another male, exciting for us both, we have bar the odd argument a very happy friendship and open and honest marriage 100% of the time. I love being her cuck husband and sharing my life with her.