Should i encourage her?.

[Goodhubby7]

Im a long time cuck wannabe, I've Never admitted it to my wife but have dropped some hints.
Since having kids (10 years ago) our sex life went downhill fast.
She dosent like to talk about sex so it's a tricky situation.
My wife is very intelligent, runs her own successful business, is very attractive and fit and is quite bossy and has to have things her way.
She is aware I'm quite submissive but disent know I want to be a cuck.
About 3 or 4 years ago I suspected she has cheated but never found proof. This sent my cuckold desires into overdrive. I tried talking about sex and she admitted she still wanted sex like any normal woman etc.
I told her my sex drive had really dropped off and so it was probably my fault we hardly ever had sex now. I have mentioned this a few times since and apologised and said its not fair on her. She has never really responded, blamed.me, questioned it or tried to defend me or make me feel better.
Apart from no sex life we have quite a good marriage and get on very well. I want to find a way to put the idea in her head that she deserves to be satisfied sexually and if I can't do it then she should be allowed to have sex with others. If the idea is hers she would likely go for it but if I suggest it I think it would be an instant no. She is very stubborn and would dig her heels in if I mentioned it again.
Question is how do I get her to think about it?.

 

[tego]

Since you have not mentioned the fetish, you may have an opportunity to progressively push your wife into it without having to acknowledge it in the first place; for example, search for excuses to mention other men; you can try porn, even lie and say that a therapist advised to tryout somethings since you have your sex drive issues, I believe your chances improve when you avoid explicitly mentioning the fetish. Also being more open may help with that one suspicion you have.

 

[Ocguy]

Definitely encourage her. I would suggest she use toys and if she rather have the real thing start with a hall pass. And if you suspect cheating, more than likely she is. Good luck.

 

[southfly]

Im a long time cuck wannabe, I've Never admitted it to my wife but have dropped some hints.
Since having kids (10 years ago) our sex life went downhill fast.
She dosent like to talk about sex so it's a tricky situation.
My wife is very intelligent, runs her own successful business, is very attractive and fit and is quite bossy and has to have things her way.
She is aware I'm quite submissive but disent know I want to be a cuck.
About 3 or 4 years ago I suspected she has cheated but never found proof. This sent my cuckold desires into overdrive. I tried talking about sex and she admitted she still wanted sex like any normal woman etc.
I told her my sex drive had really dropped off and so it was probably my fault we hardly ever had sex now. I have mentioned this a few times since and apologised and said its not fair on her. She has never really responded, blamed.me, questioned it or tried to defend me or make me feel better.
Apart from no sex life we have quite a good marriage and get on very well. I want to find a way to put the idea in her head that she deserves to be satisfied sexually and if I can't do it then she should be allowed to have sex with others. If the idea is hers she would likely go for it but if I suggest it I think it would be an instant no. She is very stubborn and would dig her heels in if I mentioned it again.
Question is how do I get her to think about it?.

sounds reasonable. although I think he's already cheating on you

 

[Funtofukurwife]

First encourage her to dress sexy or revealing clothes when going out so she'll notice men cking her out also tell her how sexy she looks and mention when u see a guy cking her out let her know. you can also play little games with her like let her know when a guy is cking her out and you can say and he looks like your type or say he doesn't look like your type that way she might start to think about him questioning what do u know about her type . Or if you notice a big bulg on him mention how she would like his big bulge good luck it took me a whole yr to get my wife to try a mfm

 

[Goodhubby7]

sounds reasonable. although I think he's already cheating on you

Im intrigued, why do you think she is already cheating?.

 

[robbiewillsucku]

yes you should encourage her to suck and fuck any cock that she wants and you ask her to come home and ride your face while she shares the details with you. Start licking her pussy clean after you fuck her then say I will lick your pussy clean after your dates.

 

[Goodhubby7]

yes you should encourage her to suck and fuck any cock that she wants and you ask her to come home and ride your face while she shares the details with you. Start licking her pussy clean after you fuck her then say I will lick your pussy clean after your dates.

Quite awkward to do that we we don't have sex anymore and she refuses and dosent like to talk about sex.

 

[TheGermanEngine]

So why does she refuse to talk about sex? There could be a deeper root cause...?

When and how do you bring this topic on? At night, when she goes to bed and needs to sleeep to run her business?
Do you have regular couple quality time where you could bring this up?
Does she feel comfortable and sexy or does she dislike her body etc. and therefore avoids sex?


What reason or other implactions might be in her mind linked when you bring it up?
- Does she feel uncomfortable because she might have had an affair as you wrote and therefore is affraid that talking about sex could reveal it?
- Is she afraid that talking about sex would end up being blamed by you for the low sex quantity, directly or indirectly?
- Is she annoyed by you bringing it up?
- Are there other serious problems in your marriage, at her job or with the kids, that have a higher priority for her than fixing the sex life?
- Do you give her the feeling that she's a valuable partner in your marriage and that you love her "not only for her cunt"?
- Do you give her the feeling that she is an attractive and desireable woman?

 

[Fl2play]

Quite awkward to do that we we don't have sex anymore and she refuses and dosent like to talk about sex.

Sounds like she's already solved The Issue😎🤷‍♂️

 

[Kevin77]

i'm a relationships coach, i've helped many cucks to convince their wives to get into this lifestyle! i can help you make her a hotwife i give them a customized plan based on their wives personality and character, and they all worked for them. DM me!

 

[CuckmeCleveland]

Guys — quit the male fantasy stuff!

No one on this planet knows this woman the way Goodhubby7 does. If he thinks something won’t go over well, it probably won’t go over well.

Instead of ‘getting her’ or ‘making her,’ why not think of this like a seduction? Which incidentally, it is.

I recommend active listening to learn as much about her fantasy life as you can — not by asking her about it, but by observing how she responds or reacts to thinks.

Do you know what her ideal partner is like? Do any scenarios seem to generate any attention? What things matter to her? Do you understand her arousal patterns well enough to explain them to a prospective stud? Do her choices for reading or movies suggest anything? What is her idea of a romantic night? What does she think about romance? If she could plan a perfect weekend, what would it be like?

The more you collect on her, the better prepared you are to develop an elaborate, planned seduction. What does she like? Is she a control freak? Would she like to lose control? Would she like a week in a log cabin in the mountains? Would she like a day in a hot air balloon with just the pilot and her fantasy stud?

If this woman is half as smart as you say, you’ll have to do better than the guys who say, ‘give her beer and turn on the porn!’

They’re thinking with their dick.

 

[CuckmeCleveland]

i'm a relationships coach, i've helped many cucks to convince their wives to get into this lifestyle! i can help you make her a hotwife i give them a customized plan based on their wives personality and character, and they all worked for them. DM me!

That’s definitely smarter and moving in the right direction!

 

[Ray Dachamp]

Ahh, bullshit. Just take ur time, slow & easy. Nobody on here knows her like you do.

Give her a hall pass....

 

[Joe111]

Feel her you had the craziest dream..you were on a nice Caribbean island and there was a guy with a massage table on the beach so you surprised her with a massage. She loved it. The guy was tall and muscular with strong hands. You were watching from the beach chair and ended up getting instantly hard as you could see the guy was being a little aggressive with some of the touching and you thought you could hear some moans coming from her.

You were on the island for a few more days and at the end of the massage, the guy mentioned that he also does in-room massages and left his number as he winked at her.

After the massage, she came up smiling and told you about the room massages and said she could feel his huge cock pressing against her thigh for a lot of the massage and she wonders if she should try a room massage later.

 

[JRodgers]

Does she travel for business?

 

[Goodhubby7]

Does she travel for business?

Only very occasionally

 

[JRodgers]

Make her a "care package" to take with her next time.

 

[Goodhubby7]

Make her a "care package" to take with her next time.

Like what?

 

[CuckmeCleveland]

Like what?

Goodhubby7:

THAT’s what YOU need to discover — as the guy who knows her better than anyone on earth.

Guys forever approach this from THEIR [male] fantasy perspective. What you want to do is to figure out HER fantasy.

There are travel guides, romantic getaway books, travel blogs, trip advisors, travel apps and the like. Get a couple. Read them and leave them lying around when you’re not reading — like by your chair.

If she asks what you’re reading, hand it to her. So she looks at it and asks why you’re reading that. ‘…hey—a guy can fantasize, right?’ It’s light-hearted but you can add a more serious note, ‘but I wouldn’t mind knowing what’s out there to explore.’ And then you ask …

‘Anything look especially nice to you?’

You gave her the guide or book, right? Let her read. Pass it back and fourth every few days for a week or so. Settle into a pattern of discussion about what she’d really like. Mountains, oceans, beaches, islands, lakes, etc.

If you don’t know what they are, figure out her favorite places and activities. You ought to know these. But become more aware of this stuff.

Figure out what type/style of man most intrigues her. Who are her favorite public performers? Henry Cavill? Tom Hiddleston? Harry Styles? Idris Elba? Michael B. Jordan? David Beckham? Daniel Craig?

Obviously, you don’t pummel her with questions — especially if it’s about men. You might broach one part of this puzzle now, and say nothing more for another 3-4 months. Even then, explore a different area than last time.

So you figure out her favourite path to romance. The orchestra? Hiking? Exploring historical sites? Scuba diving? Sky diving? Classes in cousins or photography?

Does she like bubble baths? Does she have a favourite soap scent? Mine loves lavender. What is your wife’s favourite music style? Does she like scented candles or maybe soothing music for baths? How attuned are you to things she will find extremely pleasurable?

And you figure out her sexual preferences and habits. What are her erogenous zones? Ears and lobes? Nape of her neck? Shoulders? Inside her wrists? Toes? Soles of her feet? Ankles? Calves? Inner thighs and/or lower back? You have to know it.

You want to take all the time you need. WHEN it is time, you’re going to put everything together.

Her preferences in men will guide your selection of the man you vet and prepare for this event. What you know about her idea of romance, her favourite activities and types of places, her favourite ways to relax — it all comes together.

PLUS your wife’s sexual responses.

You become the seduction coach for the man you select for her.

And your wife must know absolutely NOTHING about what is being planned.

Simply knowing her sexual response pattern is itself a huge advantage. But YOU’RE going to tell him EVERYTHING.

If your wife loves to play blindfolded, he comes prepared. If occasional, light spanks to her bottom do it for her, he knows that.

Her perfect night after a perfect day — knowing all that YOU do — this can happen. And as I’ve said before — WHEN your wife’s sexual responses is ready, she will be a pushover.