Wife agreed to try, what are the next steps?

Sparky87 · Dec 16, 2024

After planting the seed in her head and then revealing to my wife that I was turned on by the thought of her having sex with other men, she sits she would do it.

Now we are in the very very beginning stages, I was hoping to get some advice on how to progress. It's not something we will jump right into, but want to plan out and continue to talk about. We have no idea where to find someone, or the best ways to vet them out.

Any advice is welcome!!

CuckmeCleveland · Dec 18, 2024

At ‘the very very beginning stages,’ you have plenty of things to consider.

Have you discussed safety issues or any boundaries? What of emotional control? If either of you start to lose it, you will …?

Have you considered your relationship with the man you hope to invite into your bedroom. Will he understand that your marriage absolutely comes first, and that he is there to serve your wife? Will he respect you? Also, will you respect him as a man, and not simply a dick with legs?

Most marital relationships entail two people. Often, that is challenging enough. You are looking at a three-way relationship. You want the dynamics to be good all the way around.

If you’re going to do this, do it right. Take as much guess work out of it as possible. Going in with no plan and ‘figuring it out on the fly’ may not be a good idea. You can, of course, reach out for a few tips from others on the board.

Or, you could take the time and find the resources to study the ins-and-outs of this huge step.

Take care, and all the best!

werekinky2 · Dec 19, 2024

I agree with both of these comments also . It is going to take some time you may even meet with some guys and they end up flaking after. Or even before meeting with you that just happens don’t let it discourage you. Your wife having some good chemistry with the guy also helps. It helps to be able to hang out for a bit and be able to fuck after.depends what your into I guess

birdman83 · Dec 19, 2024

Sparky87 said:
After planting the seed in her head and then revealing to my wife that I was turned on by the thought of her having sex with other men, she sits she would do it.

Now we are in the very very beginning stages, I was hoping to get some advice on how to progress. It's not something we will jump right into, but want to plan out and continue to talk about. We have no idea where to find someone, or the best ways to vet them out.

Any advice is welcome!!

I would go to a swingers club and just observe. Afterwards talk about things you liked and didn’t like and set some guidelines. Go back to the same club in a few weeks and let her flit with different men and take things one step at a time. Make sure she tells all the men that she’s new to this. They’ll understand and won’t push things

dido333 · Dec 27, 2024

Sparky87 said:
After planting the seed in her head and then revealing to my wife that I was turned on by the thought of her having sex with other men, she sits she would do it.

Now we are in the very very beginning stages, I was hoping to get some advice on how to progress. It's not something we will jump right into, but want to plan out and continue to talk about. We have no idea where to find someone, or the best ways to vet them out.

Any advice is welcome!!

I think we are all very curious about your experiences! Please let us be a part of it! I wish you good luck with it!👍

bhappy_39 · Dec 27, 2024

Alcohol lowers inhibitions you might meet a nice gentleman at a bar on vacation.

sara70 · Dec 27, 2024

It took me a lot of time to move forward but now I feel do not be afraid, once you have done your homework and reach to a satisfaction level of understanding and follow advices like above, than just do it.

toolman2c · Dec 30, 2024

sara70 said:
It took me a lot of time to move forward but now I feel do not be afraid, once you have done your homework and reach to a satisfaction level of understanding and follow advices like above, than just do it.

Sara 70 cpl,, this sounds like good advice, TY for posting.

indiabull · Jan 1, 2025

Sparky87 said:
After planting the seed in her head and then revealing to my wife that I was turned on by the thought of her having sex with other men, she sits she would do it.

Now we are in the very very beginning stages, I was hoping to get some advice on how to progress. It's not something we will jump right into, but want to plan out and continue to talk about. We have no idea where to find someone, or the best ways to vet them out.

Any advice is welcome!!

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Sharedwife16 · Jan 1, 2025

The best way forward that we used was setting up a profile on an adult site.
You can both create the intro, what your looking for, as well as what your not looking for.

My wife also made it clear it was only sex,and would never be allowed to spill into our everyday life.

I had my say, making it clear I would be involved (in the talking and planning), and if that was a problem, then it would be a non starter, stating that know one goes near my wife unless I'm happy with them.

We used newbirnudes.com, using a false name and not our exact location.
All pics were tasteful/erotic, with never face pics used.

All the above was important as I/we didn't want any pressure to progress unless my wife was certain.

Only when a guy was chosen , often over a period of months, would we give our real identity and location.

It would mean your wife could see how interested many men were in her,and could openly talk about sex , knowing she was absolutely untraceable, plus it's easier to just say no to men she didn't want to get to know.

Doing it this way will be so easy for your wife to dip her toes in.

CONST65 · Jan 8, 2025

Sparky87 said:
After planting the seed in her head and then revealing to my wife that I was turned on by the thought of her having sex with other men, she sits she would do it.

Now we are in the very very beginning stages, I was hoping to get some advice on how to progress. It's not something we will jump right into, but want to plan out and continue to talk about. We have no idea where to find someone, or the best ways to vet them out.

Any advice is welcome!!

I told my wife things will happen in time one way that we have worked to.make it happen. I got her to get really dressed up.sexually inviting We went to a hotel/ cocktail lounge for drinks,dancing i told her sit at a high stool for two ad sit alone i watched from a distance ,so.i.could watch without being seen. .I told her have a drink.relax and let nature take it course maybe. A guy will ask.her to dance/ buy her a drink if she feels comfortable she can let things happen.if not you just go home and enjoy each other . My wife and i.have done this .The guy picked her up.and they went to.the hotel ,then she texted mevto go.on home she would see me in.the morning. It has lead to some intense encounters She meet onevof her regular guys that way

ilovetofu · Jan 9, 2025

CuckmeCleveland said:
At ‘the very very beginning stages,’ you have plenty of things to consider.

Have you discussed safety issues or any boundaries? What of emotional control? If either of you start to lose it, you will …?

Have you considered your relationship with the man you hope to invite into your bedroom. Will he understand that your marriage absolutely comes first, and that he is there to serve your wife? Will he respect you? Also, will you respect him as a man, and not simply a dick with legs?

Most marital relationships entail two people. Often, that is challenging enough. You are looking at a three-way relationship. You want the dynamics to be good all the way around.

If you’re going to do this, do it right. Take as much guess work out of it as possible. Going in with no plan and ‘figuring it out on the fly’ may not be a good idea. You can, of course, reach out for a few tips from others on the board.

Or, you could take the time and find the resources to study the ins-and-outs of this huge step.

Take care, and all the best!

How about NYE taking my wife out and getting her tipsy. She knows i have this fantasy but she brought it up that i had one while we were drinking. I said "I think you aroused by the idea even though you were supposedly "opposed" before. The giggling she was omitting was so hot. Im around 9 and jokingly said "I think we should do a BBC" and again a very giggly response of "You're good enough". (Which i know isn't true) So how would you proceed?

CuckmeCleveland · Jan 10, 2025

ilovetofu said:
‘ … taking my wife out and getting her tipsy …’

Not to speak against the lifestyle, but the question to be asked is, ‘why is that necessary.’ The answer is …

You don’t have consent.

Autogrilla · Jan 23, 2025

She and I have already played with a stranger plus a trusted mutual friend (I called him to be sure and explained to him what we intended to do, that is, have her undress in a striptease and just have her touched and put his hands and games in her... and 'It went well... I controlled my emotions and a friendly relationship was established.
we looked for the same mature man (he was 30 years older than us at the time) and the second time he arrived with a rolling pin as a gift for her and asked her if he could stick it in her...She was happy because not by fucking she wasn't It seemed like we were doing nothing wrong. Then we got married, raised our ......, etc.
we no longer played and almost didn't even have sex.. Now we have started again and I asked him to try the couple swap (even if I'm not interested in going with others.. but I don't enjoy it if I don't see her undressing on cam x strangers leading her and asking her to do dirty things...
What should I do to take her to play with 2 men and I watch?

LWHubby · Jan 23, 2025

Take it slow, set up a nice date with you and her somewhere fun, try to get her to dress a bit sexy for the date. When you are out make sure you point out when guys are checking her out. Maybe something will happen organically at the very least you'll have her juices flowing and have something to talk about while you and her having sex. 2 at once can take a bit work up to.

wormwood · Jan 23, 2025

Sparky87 said:
After planting the seed in her head and then revealing to my wife that I was turned on by the thought of her having sex with other men, she sits she would do it.

Now we are in the very very beginning stages, I was hoping to get some advice on how to progress. It's not something we will jump right into, but want to plan out and continue to talk about. We have no idea where to find someone, or the best ways to vet them out.

Any advice is welcome!!

I'm assuming here that you don't need to be present as you just mention that she's agreed to having sex with someone and you haven't mentioned a threesome or watching.
Is the plan to have her date another man or is it for you to be present?
If the plan is for her to date someone, any number of dating apps would work.
If the plan is for a threesome or watching, then swinger or alternative lifestyle sites would be more appropriate.

Satisfiedman · Jan 23, 2025

When my wife decided to do a threesome, one thing that was paramount to her was limiting any possible further interaction with the person she chose. Our solution was to go to an airbase about a half hour from our home. On weekends, a large amount of airmen would be heading into town so we went and she picked a young guy hitchhiking that attracted her. We were about 40 minutes from the downtown area, so during the drive, we were able to have a good conversation with him. My wife and I had worked out a simple code if she was interested. When we got to town, if she gave the o.k., we’d invite him to hang out with us. Virtually everyone we picked up this way said yes. We’d then go to a dance bar and have some drinks. My wife then said she wanted to dance from which I’d beg off and then ask him to dance with her while I got us some drinks. That’s where the seduction was done with provocative dancing and suggestive touching. More touching and feeling by wife under our booth table made her purpose undeniable. When we thought he was ready, we filled him in on having a hotel nearby and us wanting him to join us in a threesome. No one ever refused. In this way, my wife was able to enjoy many different cocks from many different parts of our country. All were younger and relatively inexperienced, and more than willing to learn from my wife. Later in our sex life, she decided she wanted more mature men for our threesomes and lured the men she wanted while I watched from across the room.