Have never talked to my wife about swinging or sharing her and I’m looking for real advice on how to peak her interest and hopefully we give it a try. Thanks in advance for any help!
I want to swing/share my wife, what is the best way to start?
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Similar situation here so no good advice, just encouragement. Good luck, there will be good advice coming im sure
Maybe try and watch some porn wirh her with swingers or wife fucking another guy,you will see how much it turns her on,then maybe roll play and get her to talk to you about what turns her on ?
Communication. Communication. Communication.
Background: 10+ years as a bull. The best experiences I've had were with couples who spent a lot of time having conversations with one another - conversations most guys who are into this kink are afraid to have. I think the best advice I can give is to talk to your wife, be vulnerable, be honest, know that it can be scary, but if your relationship is strong enough to try this kink it's definitely strong enough to have a conversation. Then take your time, play with the idea in the bedroom, but also make sure you check in with each other outside the bedroom too.
Good luck!
Background: 10+ years as a bull. The best experiences I've had were with couples who spent a lot of time having conversations with one another - conversations most guys who are into this kink are afraid to have. I think the best advice I can give is to talk to your wife, be vulnerable, be honest, know that it can be scary, but if your relationship is strong enough to try this kink it's definitely strong enough to have a conversation. Then take your time, play with the idea in the bedroom, but also make sure you check in with each other outside the bedroom too.
Good luck!
Im there with you. I got her to send me some a few years ago, but it was short lived. She wont watch porn either. Seems like our situation is similar. Good luck!
Slow & easy. Bring it up in passing, not pushy. Guage her reaction.
Plant the seed & let it grow in her imagination.
Mention it again, days/a week later. Keep it gently on her mind. If she talks about it, still, go slow. Tell her u just think its sexy.
Take her out for drinks. Mention other guys at the bar. Slowly get it to be a common, non committed topic.
Until she shows interest. Perhaps as ur fucking? That always a great time to tell her how hot she'd look/be, fucking another guy.
But most of all, absolutely convince her that its OK with you. That u have no problem with it, in fact u think its hot.
Not tried & true for every woman. You know how she is & will react. Just go slow & easy, baby steps to start. Good luck!
Plant the seed & let it grow in her imagination.
Mention it again, days/a week later. Keep it gently on her mind. If she talks about it, still, go slow. Tell her u just think its sexy.
Take her out for drinks. Mention other guys at the bar. Slowly get it to be a common, non committed topic.
Until she shows interest. Perhaps as ur fucking? That always a great time to tell her how hot she'd look/be, fucking another guy.
But most of all, absolutely convince her that its OK with you. That u have no problem with it, in fact u think its hot.
Not tried & true for every woman. You know how she is & will react. Just go slow & easy, baby steps to start. Good luck!
Every situation and outcome will be different. Early this year my wife and I were talking about things and I asked her what fantasies she had. She mentioned she thought about a threesome with a guy or girl (bi-curious). So here we are. We are taking things slow as this is new for us and feel like there isn't a rush. I think the most important thing is to talk about what you feel with your wife and don't push or rush things.
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Make absolutely sure its ok by you. No problems or recriminations. You WANT it!
Good luck. She'll luv u for it...
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You are likely to find a range of responses, from simple disinterest through to shock and disgust. Women are more likely to be interested in an actor or musician that we consider both physically attractive and has particular personality traits.
Far better to start the conversation the way her friends would. Perhaps “you are stranded on a desert island, which film star would you choose to keep you company?”
Once you have a name, ask her what she likes, is it they are tall and handsome, sporty, caring family type etc.
Ask her about other actors with similar attributes to find out if she just has a crush on that one guy or a type.
Drop other questions and suggestions at suitable times, if this person she likes was a guest at a wedding would she flirt with him?. Ask If anyone closer to home that she ever thought it might be fun to flirt with. Tell her how seeing her catching the attention of other men and flirting would be something that would excite you and reinforce how desirable she is to you.
Build up to discussions about how you sometimes think about how exciting it would be to think about her enjoying herself with someone similar to the guy she imagines herself with. Try to reassure her that you have no ulterior motives, that you would like her to enjoy herself and at the same time something that you would find hugely exiting.
Perhaps I shouldn’t give away all the secrets. The amusing thing is I have the opposite problem, having to hide my adventures from my husband!
The watch porn thing is often rolled out by men in these discussion, but it is bad advice. Men are easily excited by porn, while I can’t possibly speak for all women, neither I or any of my female friends have any interest in porn at all.
You are likely to find a range of responses, from simple disinterest through to shock and disgust. Women are more likely to be interested in an actor or musician that we consider both physically attractive and has particular personality traits.
Far better to start the conversation the way her friends would. Perhaps “you are stranded on a desert island, which film star would you choose to keep you company?”
Once you have a name, ask her what she likes, is it they are tall and handsome, sporty, caring family type etc.
Ask her about other actors with similar attributes to find out if she just has a crush on that one guy or a type.
Drop other questions and suggestions at suitable times, if this person she likes was a guest at a wedding would she flirt with him?. Ask If anyone closer to home that she ever thought it might be fun to flirt with. Tell her how seeing her catching the attention of other men and flirting would be something that would excite you and reinforce how desirable she is to you.
Build up to discussions about how you sometimes think about how exciting it would be to think about her enjoying herself with someone similar to the guy she imagines herself with. Try to reassure her that you have no ulterior motives, that you would like her to enjoy herself and at the same time something that you would find hugely exiting.
Perhaps I shouldn’t give away all the secrets. The amusing thing is I have the opposite problem, having to hide my adventures from my husband!
I have questions about your husband. Why he didn't want have hot wife? Thanks for your answer
Perhaos because she amazingly sexy and he loves to see her get the most intense pleasure she can get: organism pleasure
Cuckold porn should do.
I saw alot of posts who said cuckold porn helped them to get into that lifestyle
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